Don’t let this person reject you

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People only hire people who they like, unless they don't have any alternatives. So it is in your interest to be able to strike a positive rapport with new people that you meet quickly. The reason is that the first impression that they give you sticks and they will spend the following 20 minutes trying to confirm that this first impression is correct. Therefore, don't start by giving people a neutral or negative impression of you when you don't have 20 minutes or more to correct it. Okay. You arrive for the interview and little nervous. You announce your arrival to the receptionist. I'm here for an interview with John Smith. I be short because you are focused on your upcoming performance. The receptionist asks you, please take a seat and wait over there. You wait and you do this till the interviewer appears.

If this is the way you introduced that, I dare to say, you can do better. So here's what you can do differently. When she says, please take a seat over there. You say, thank you. But if you walk over there, you will miss an opportunity to make a good first impression. So stay and try to make a positive connection. This is where most people feel a little uncomfortable. I understand this because as you most likely know, from my accent, I'm Danish. I grew up in Copenhagen speaking, Danish. I'm in [inaudible] at the age of 26, I moved to Texas new world, new language. I was socially unsure and afraid of making mistake in English. So it was difficult for me to connect with new people per preference was to listen and not speak and not to make a fool of myself. It was not easy to connect with new people.

But when I moved to Australia in 96, I decided to improve my connection and rapport building skills. So I started to have small talk with the people I met in the elevator and at the supermarket checkout, it was a 32nd game. The purpose was to improve my connection skills. The goal was to create a genuine first connection with him or her in the time it took for him or her to scan my purchases and pay. I played this game every single time I went through the line at the store. I know it sounds crazy. However, my ability to quickly build a rapport with a total stranger improved dramatically. The advance of the checkout point is that you can practice. You will pour building skills in a Siro stakes environment. Vitra is where the checkout person either flashes an authentic smile, laughs or shares a unique personal detail.

So how's this Wednesday treating you, you look busy. Do you still have love long time left on your shift or compliment them on being so cheerful. If it's near the end of their shift or thanked them for packing the groceries carefully, look for something in their answer that you can spin into a conversation. And the moment they've said something about themselves, you've made a small but positive connection victory in just a month, you will start noticing trends. What makes people light up? What keeps them in polite, but not interested mode and which elements of their responses to Hunan. So why do this with the receptionist? Because when he interviewed or follows you out the door and when you have the part, the interviewer will turn around and ask the receptionist, what do you think? Maybe the receptionist will just say, I didn't like him. Please do not hire him. I've seen a lot of people being ruled out by the receptionist. They have a bigger influence than you may think. I encourage you to try the 32nd Gainesville. Don't lose your dream job because you didn't make it past the receptionist. I'm here to help you to land your dream job. If you like this, please click on the link below to subscribe to more of my tips and suggestions. I look forward to helping you. Thank you for your time.


First impressions matter

People only hire people who they like, unless they don't have any other alternatives. So it is in your interest to be able to strike a positive rapport with new people that you meet quickly.

The reason is that the first impression that they get of you sticks; and they will spend the following 20 minutes trying to confirm that this first impression is correct.

Therefore don't start by giving people a negative or neutral impression of you when you don't have 20 minutes or more to correct it. 

You arrive for the interview, a little nervous. You announce your arrival to the receptionist, "I'm here for an interview with John Smith".  A bit short, because you are focused on your upcoming performance. The receptionist asks you "Please take a seat and wait over there".  You wait.  And you do this until the interviewer appears. 

If this is the way your interviews start, we dare to say, you can do better.  So watch the video above for our best trick to building rapport and improving your first impression.

Don't let this person reject youi

Christian Madsen - Managing Director at 11 Recruitment
Christian Madsen
Managing Director
11 Recruitment

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